Bonk Tips – 3 ways sex is better with someone you love
There’s a reason food hunger is likened to sex hunger: Both using the word “appetite” to describe the urge to satisfy it. And sex, like hunger, is a totally basic, foundation-level human need.
Many single people often say that their aversion for monogamy is based on the myth that sex with the same person for a long time will undoubtedly get boring. While some couples quickly give up, that’s far from the reality that most couples experience – and the hunger never goes away. Boring, lazy people let their sex lives go lackluster, just like they will allow that to happen to any other aspect of a relationship – if you want to keep challenging each other, and growing, and being stimulated, you have to be willing to do the work.
In my humble opinion, hot sex is all about communication – being able to tell someone what you like and what you don’t, understanding the subtleties of their facial expressions and body language, and a comfort about being open with each other. Like, once you’ve told someone your secrets, fears, and dreams, it’s nothing to tell them to go a little to the left.
So in a nutshell – Stay hungry, talk lots, do the work, challenge yourself and partner – and get ready for some next level shit.
3 ways that sex with someone you love is different – and better.
3. Mutual Respect
When you’re having sex with a person you’re bonkers for—and who is also bonkers for you—you’re both aiming to get the other one off. So you’ll both be more open to direction, attentive to subtle cues, and not stop ’til you make the other person have a hearty Orgasm.
2. There’s no rush homie
Booty calls are fun and have their place, but it’s easy to get sidetracked by how you’re getting home, and how soon and sometimes miss your chance to really have fun because of the distractions. When you’re in that sweet simmering puddle of love – there’s no stress to hurry and get going. Chances are, you’re staying over, or you live together. No rushing – take your time, hang out, have sex until you pass out, at which point you can (and should) order post-coital delivery food and more bonk, obviously.
1. Comfort lends itself to having an open mind
Which means you can get kinky!. Yes – trying new stuff is easy! You might feel a little nervous to attempt a different position or experiment with toys (which you should definitely do with bonk – water-based lube) with someone you don’t feel emotionally connected with. When you know someone completely, fully has your back and is going to protect you, you can let your physical and emotional guards down all the way, and have an infinitely better time.