Cosmo’s 10 ways to use lube during sex

“If you’ve never put lube inside a condom, WYD?”

ube is the unsung hero of sex. It’s galaxy brain-level sex-having, because it’s so obvious, yet so brilliant, and once you know about it, you’ll think back on the time before you did as the horrid “before years.”

For some reason, lubricant has this fuddy-duddy reputation as something that’s only for people who’ve “dried up.” But there’s absolutely no truth to that. Lube, in all its glory, is for everyone—as in, everyone should be using it more times than not. And not just using it, but using it creatively.” Lube is great for great sex

Lube is one of the best bedroom enhancers around, making sex wetter, slicker, more enjoyable, and longer-lasting. Not only will it help you feel more comfortable and flexible, but lube comes in lots of flavors, sensations, and textures to make the action feel fun and experimental. Even if you don’t usually have issues getting wet on your own, it’s smart to keep lube on hand in case you go through a bout of dryness due to hormone changes related to pregnancy, breastfeeding, or stress.”

Huffington Post: A few drops of lube inside the condom will increase his enjoyment

Regardless of the reason (and whether or not you use condoms), lacking personal lubrication during sex can be uncomfortable, distracting and painful. Most women experience times when additional lubrication would greatly improve both comfort and sexual pleasure for her as well as her partner.”


Allure Magazine: Use lubricant liberally

Seriously, the worst-case scenario is that you have to wipe a little bit away if you over-pour. There is not a soul on this green earth who doesn’t need lube from time to time — and if that statement makes you feel defensive, consider where that lube stigma is coming from. Your body is in no way “broken” and there is nothing “wrong” with you if you use lube. Lube is not solely for postmenopausal folks or anal play: It is ideal for any activity (unless you have a thing for really dry sex or something).

We all have our less-hydrated days and, let’s be honest, spit is a really ineffective lubricant. If you’ve avoided lube in your sex life thus far, I challenge you to get yourself a small bottle, try it out next time you play, and tell me that shit isn’t awesome. You don’t even have to save it for partnered sex. Use a little the next time you masturbate and notice the difference.”


Refinery 29: Know your toys

Sex toys are lots of fun to add to any position you’re trying to accomplish, but if you’re using one made of silicone, then avoid silicone lubes. The thing that’s used to make silicone lubes stay liquid breaks down the surface of silicone sex toys, says Lisa Finn, a sex educator at Babeland. “It doesn’t make it into a dangerous science experiment or anything that’s going to be harmful to the body,” she says. “You just don’t want to ruin a nice silicone toy.”


Lucky Bloke: How to choose lube


New York Magazine: Know your personal style of lube

Buying lube can be, at best, embarrassing, and at worst, downright confusing, especially if the only type of lube you’ve purchased before is from the drugstore. And if you’ve resigned yourself to using less-than-perfect lube (or avoided it entirely), you probably just need to try a different type. “There is likely no lube that will be perfect for every user,” explains Carol Queen, staff sexologist at Good Vibrations, a woman-founded sex-toy retailer based in California that’s been in business for over three decades. “As with food sensitivities, some lubricant ingredients just don’t agree with everyone’s body chemistry.”


Glamour Magazine: Lube can help with thrush (but read the ingredients first)

On one hand, lube is great for giving the dreaded bird the boot. “The friction during quickies or rough sex encourages heat and small grazes to the walls of the vagina. These encourage bacterial growth, leading to thrush,” explains Evans. Cut friction and you stop micro-tears, leaving a happier V-zone.

However, artificial ingredients in some lubes were not built with crotch sanity in mind. “Your vagina and clitoris are highly absorbent,” says sexual health expert Samantha Evans, a former nurse and co-owner of Jo Divine sex toy e-tailer. “Parabens, petroleum-based ingredients (found in petroleum jelly), glycerin and glucose can promote yeast infections and leave your vagina feeling itchy, sore and uncomfortable.” If you’re prone to sensitivity, give dyes a wide berth too, and look for natural flavourings, not artificial ones (often full of thrush-spawning sugars like glycerine or glycol).”