It’s cold outside – hell, it’s cold outside your duvet! Getting naked and naughty is probably the last thing on your mind in this nippy weather and the frosty weather won’t help your libido flow!
Bonk Lube to the rescue! Enjoy our sexy ideas for winter romance
Snuggles under the couch throw
Turn up the heater or light the fire, pull the curtains, get a fluffy blanket and make your lover a hot chocolate with chilli to spice up the mood and create an element of surprise (we highly recommend Tio Pablo Chocolate Azteca for just the right amount of bite!) Once your chosen person is warm, snuggly and spiced up, slide a hand under that blanket and see what else you can spice up!
Beach trip madness
Put on your warm down jackets and head to your favourite West Coast beach to watch the sun to go down. Get it on right there in the car as night falls. The element of risk just adds to the excitement and if you’re feeling a little shy Bonk Lube organic personal lubricant will help you get going!
Duvet bliss… so cosy, so intimate…
Get under the duvet. Wriggle about till its all warm. Wriggle out of your clothes. Wriggle in ways that feel real good with your honey, and your Bonk Lube personal lube. There should be giggles and heavy breathing and lots of warm luscious fun!
Get away from normality
Book a getaway and stay in bed in the mornings romancing. Spend afternoons wandering and evenings indulging before heading back to bed.
Send the kids to Grandad’s for the weekend
This way YOU get to get up to mischief for a change! Make the most of your time. Be carefree and sexy all over the house… except maybe in the kids rooms. Added bonus – you’ll be so glad to see them when they come home!
Take it slow with a deep hot bath
Get thoroughly wet and warm with each other, before drying off and maybe giving a massage to your partner before things get ‘hot and steamy’ again!
Enjoy! Winter is the ideal time to get warm and intimate with your lover – or yourself! There are lots more sex tips here and here if you are feeling inspired!
Pro tip – make the most of your organic personal lube
When you know which personal lubricant is right for you, make sure you have a tube bedside for taking advantage of the moment – and maybe a few mini sex lube tubes in the glove box for out and about emergencies!
Reasons to get sexy in winter – make the most of it!
We know. You want to store your lingerie in a trunk and hibernate until the first tulip pops up. Don’t do it, because you’ll be depriving yourself of quite a few mind-shattering sexual experiences by assuming great sex can’t be had when the thermometer dips way down low. Sure, we’ve been made to feel like our bodies are most desirable when they’re tanned and covered in sea salt, but those are all lies, lies, lies created by the makers of tanning oils. Experts and uncovered seven awesome facts about sex in the colder months that will make you happy you live in a place that feels like a tundra.
1. Men crave more sex when it’s cold out
If you need more proof that they really are from Mars, look no further: In a study published by Psychology Today, 114 men were asked to rate the attractiveness of women over the course of one year. The colder it got, the more aroused they became by revealing photos of women. Scientists say men didn’t give a flip about our faces — which were the same level of pretty all year around — but became absolute hound dogs for our bodies in the autumn and winter.
Dr. Carlen Costa, a sexologist and relationship expert, explained: “As humans, we tend to want what we can’t have, so less skin means more opportunities to provoke fantasy and think about what’s hiding underneath all those layers of scarves and sweaters.”
Finally — an explanation for why the male crooner of “Baby, It’s Cold Outside” always sounded so randy.
2. More babies are conceived in autumn
The most common birthday shared by people between the ages of 14 and 40 is Sept. 16. That, my friends, means people are getting it on in December. The least popular month to conceive is, believe it or not, August.
3. Men’s sperm count is lower in the summer
There could be a perfectly good explanation for why more babies are conceived in the wintertime: The quantity and concentration of sperm per ejaculation is actually lower in the summer than in any other season. While this doesn’t mean you should throw out your birth control the day you buy your bikini, it’s nice to know the universe isn’t simply torturing us with icy roads and frigid temperatures — if it means more adorable babies are born thanks to the cold.
4. Emotional connections may be stronger when it’s cold outside
Dr. Charley Ferrer, a clinical sexologist, sex expert and author, says everything about the colder months, including how we decorate our homes and workplaces for the holidays, makes us feel more emotional and heightens our desire to discover what is hidden beneath the surface of the people who attract us. “Couples cuddle together to seek warmth, not only from the cold, but from the distance they’ve sensed in their relationships,” Ferrer said. And, as we all know, the stronger attached we feel to someone else, the more intense sex can be.
5. It’s the best time to brush up on the classics (sex positions, that is)
Save the butter churner for July, because sex in the autumn and winter calls for positions that generate more body heat and feel “cozy,” according to Amy Levine, sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure. “People may be more self-conscious about their bodies and want positions that are less physically exposed or less vulnerable,” Levine said. Some winter favorites include missionary with a pelvic lift and variations on spooning.
Where to go for a sexy winter getaway in NZ
There’s never been a better time to travel our own back yard and enjoy the most beautiful country in the world. Winter is a gorgeous time to explore with a lover as you have every excuse for snuggling up together in bed, to admire a view, or in a cosy wine bar. Here are four special destinations across New Zealand that we’ve added to our list of places to see!
Tekapo Hot Springs
Located in beautiful Lake Tekapo in the heart of New Zealand’s incredible South Island, this hot springs venue offers the perfect combination of exciting and relaxing activities. Nestled at the base of Mount John with views of iconic Lake Tekapo and the mountain ranges beyond, this is the perfect place to get hot and steamy. There are a range of local accommodation options from deluxe to YHA!
Abel Tasman
A unique place that is extraordinary all year, with only 10 degrees separating a mild winter and warm summer, Abel Tasman has clear blue skies most of the year. The famous Abel Tasman Coast Track is is perfect for a few hours hiking, or you can spend days enjoying walking, kayaking, mountain biking, canyoning or skydiving. Abel Tasman offers a great range of food, and accommodation.
Doubtless Bay and Karikari
With luxury accommodation at Carrington Resort or countless friendly ocean side motels, Doubtless Bay offers a plethora of beautiful beaches within an few minutes drive or an easy day trip – Mangonui Harbour, Cooper’s Beach, Maitai Bay, Houhora, Rarawa, Hendersons Bay, Spirits Bay, Caper Reinga and 90 Mile Beach are all well worth spending time.
Te Aroha
Tucked away but not far from all sorts of places, Te Aroha may be the town that escaped time. Despite mineral hot springs, cafes and a historic pub or two, this town has slipped below the radar. This is exactly what makes it the ideal lovers getaway! The name Te Aroha comes from the small mountain which shelters the town at it’s foot. Find a quaint B&B and soak in the hot springs before dinner at a local spot. If you’re brave you can hike up the mountain trail and see the stunning views from the top after breakfast.
What to take
Feel free to add to our list, but this is a good basis for a romantic getaway in New Zealand.
Treats and eats. Champagne or a great gin and a pack of tonic. Chocolates. Cheese and crackers, grapes and antipasto. An exceptional bottle of red.
A warm fluffy rug for instant picnic spots or warm snuggles by the fire. A hot water bottle if your partner feels the cold easily. An extra woolly scarf for chivalrously flinging around them in windy spots.
Bonk Lube and Jonny Condoms. Add some extra adventure with the Rose Quartz Wand or pop in a Love Box to explore together.
A researched list of good restaurants nearby, and your top five awesome things to do. This way you can pull out a casual suggestion (which will turn out to be excellent) at a moment’s notice.
A gift for your lover. A Love Box, a piece of artisan jewellery, an organic New Zealand made skin care product or a small piece of art. Maybe you can find the perfect item on your holiday and support local artists!
A good book and a couple of magazines or ipad in case you just want to snuggle up together, and read or watch Netflix.
Have fun!