Talk it up
If you have sexy plans for your partner, call them or text and let them know. Make sensual promises and tell them how much you are planning to enjoy being with them. Make them feel special before you even see them – this is starting the foreplay early!
Take it slow
Make your make-out session last. And last, and last… foreplay can be so good it becomes the finale – and if you DO make it to intercourse, the pleasure will be amplified 10 fold by the anticipation and heightened sensitivity. Either way, it’s a win – win, right?
* Just remember to have your Bonk Lube handy to lubricate the long-lasting-loving!
Speed it up
Sometimes a quick make-out session and mutual hand job is just what the doctor ordered. Don’t discount a good quickie either – the speed and excitement can break up a predictable sex routine – and spontaneous is sexy!
* Again, Bonk Lube is a great help with speedy sex!
Stop faking
All this does is mis-lead your partner into thinking they have the game sorted. It’s better to be vocal about what you do like and help them find out what you really DO like.
Share your fantasy
Swap your deepest fantasies and (assuming you are both ok with them) take turns to act them out or engage in the different sexy acts that you have both been dreaming of. You can BECOME your partner’s fantasy!
Love your body
Take a good look at yourself and decide to be loving. This miraculous body has done so much for you, and it deserves to be deeply appreciated. Instead of focusing on perceived flaws and wishing you were different, stop. Be grateful. Stroke your skin and appreciate how amazing it feels. Make love and pay attention to how good your body makes you feel. Prepare a script that you can repeat to yourself if you face a cruel mirror or an unforgiving mood, and tell yourself out loud how much you appreciate your one unique, beautiful and wondrous body.
Self love is sexual dynamite. If in doubt, just listen to Maya Angelou’s Phenomenal Woman.
Break the routine
Come on to your partner before work or wake them up for midnight fun. Book a hotel room and bring champagne. Dress up. Have sex outside the bedroom. Or outside. It’s up to you – changing the script means all bets are off.
Have fun! Check out Part 2 here.