Locked down away from your lover? In our technological age when friendships, businesses, families and communities routinely connect remotely, there is nothing stopping you getting fresh – even at a distance!
Sex is great for your wellbeing and orgasms are acknowledged as great immunity boosters… so now, more than ever we recommend a healthy dose of sexual satisfaction. This may be as simple as reaching for your Bonk Lube and Rose Quartz Wand and some luxurious self-indulgence – or you might make a date at home with your lover to work your way through our tips for better sex. Enjoy!But if you are one of the many people who is apart from their lover, we have a handy list of ways to get each other rocking, remotely!
1. Call and connect
Take the phone to bed and make a husky late night call. Explain in detail the things you would do with them if they were beside (or under or over) you. Share intimate fantasies and reminisce over beautiful moments you have shared.Feeling kinkier and don’t mind if Yahoo add another nude video to their collection? Undress and video call… let your lover talk you through what they would like to do with your naked body, and let your hands do the translation. Take turns satisfying yourselves while the other watches … or have a fun race to the finish line!
2. Make a personal playlist
This one was a big trend in the 80’s as lovers arduously recorded mix tapes filled with songs designed to woo the object of their affections. With Spotify this is so much easier and classier – and easier to send!Songs might be ones that provoke memories, or songs with a message you want to send your lover. Add a hot playlist that is specifically designed for your lover to play while they satisfy themselves!
3. Write a letter or a poem
The art of love by letter has slipped from common use, but it’s an enduring and emotive way to share your feelings and be intimate. Dare to put pen to paper – even if you plan to photograph it and send it via WhatsApp!
4. Send a Love Box
This is literally the ideal way to ensure your lover is well prepared for pleasure! Choose from three Love Box options and add a Rose Quartz Pleasure Wand for extra X-factor.
We can deliver Love Boxes to your lover anywhere in NZ, even during lockdown. We send via contactless courier delivery from the privacy of our home.
5. Bone up on your sex skills
(Pun intended).Read our Sex Blog articles and make a note of anything you haven’t tried or want to do more of. Some of the hottest articles include:
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Create a better sex life Part 1 – A how-to for sexy, sensual fun!
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Create a better sex life Part 2 – A how-to for sexy, sensual fun!
And there’s lots more to read over on the Sex Blog!
6. Share moments & make memories
There are so many ways to make new connections with each other with story telling and shared experiences. Maybe you can pop your mobile phone on the counter while you cook dinner and share your day’s highlights with each other by video chat. Take turns telling stories from your childhood that you haven’t told before. Let your lover see how you became the person you are, or share a laugh over the mischief, misery and miracles of childhood memories. Make a movie date and watch the same movie with a phone call open so you can chat and laugh about the movie as if you were together. Tell your lover how you feel. Listen. If we let it, even distance gives us opportunities to be closer together.
7. Explore Sex tech
It’s a brave new world… with 25-30% of our global population in varying degrees of lockdown and physical isolation, more of us are alone (or alone together) than ever before. Many of us are craving physical contact or unable to get the amount of human contact we are used to.
Regardless of if we are at home with a partner or not, many people have much more time with much less to do, and that means that many of us have decided that there is no better time to indulge in some self care and pleasure than right now!People are unable to date and meet new partners in the normal ways, and are increasingly turning to new online experiences like games, apps, services, sex toy stores and yes, of course; porn.
Pornhub traffic in the US was up almost 14% in March, and across Europe the $30b sex tech industry is thriving. Apps that give advice on sex are posting record downloads, sex-toy company MySecretCase doubled its sales in the days following lockdown, eHarmony, OKCupid and Match report a large rise in video dates – and Tinder’s global users made 3 billion swipes on just one Sunday in March.
“The obligation to remain within our home walls has pushed the whole country to find strategies to enjoy the quarantine, both alone and as couples. There is a strong desire to be together, to connect, to make love, to discover oneself.” – MySecretCase founder Norma Rossetti
But as Ferly posts a 65% increase in app downloads, Cofounder Billie Quinlan says that sessions like ‘Self-Compassion’ and ‘Bodies and Boundaries’ are outperforming the erotic stories and guided masturbations as people look for holistic self-care in times of lockdown anxiety.
If you’ve been itching to join the online buzz, we have curated some classy sex tech options you may like to try.
Ferly
The London designed Ferly app is aimed at helping women learn the art of sexual self-care. They offer to make it simple, sensual and unashamedly normal. Try a sensual story here or listen to a session on fantasy here.
OMGYes
These online packages presents the results of extensive research into pleasure, and lets you uncover tools for your sexual enjoyment – designed for women, men who love women, and couples. Explore layering, hinting, broadening and more… some of these techniques didn’t even have names before OMGYes chose them!
Emjoy
An erotic audio guide app created in Spain (but available in English!), Emjoy useage has increased 160% since isolation began, and invites you to ‘center and prioritize your pleasure with guided audio practices’.
Beducated
Activity on the German Beducated app, which promises ‘sexual happiness is trainable’ is up 189% and more people are completing their online courses with higher binge-watching rates.
Best Friend Forever
A dating sim based around a love of dogs? Let’s be honest, there’s a lot to like about this NZ designed uber-inclusive game where sims look like a selection of normal Wellingtonians and you can choose your identity and age as well as your favourite dog breed. If you have dogs in common, you’re likely to get on IRL too!
