If you are new to sex, or new to personal lubricant, you might have a lot of questions. And we definitely don’t have all the answers!
Your sexual exploration and experience is unique to you, and there are very few base rules for engagement.
Do things you enjoy, ask for consent, be safe.
One thing we do know all about is personal lubricant. And we are big fans of organic sex lube!
And sex lube is an absolutely fantastic facilitator of sensual experimentation, as well as long term love affairs!
Read on – we’d love to share insights into personal lubricant and the many ways to use it!
Whatever your reason for using sex lube, it helps to have some tips up your sleeve to get the most pleasure out of your experiences. Here are our top 12 insider tips for using organic personal lubricants for maximum fun and safety.
#1 – Size matters!
Squeeze out an amount of lube around twice the size of a pea. Keep your tube of Bonk Lube Natural Organic Lubricant handy, you never know how long the fun will last, or where the game will go!
#2 – Turn up the heat
Sex lube can feel pretty chilly straight out of the tube, so give it a quick rub between your palms to warm it up and keep your partner hot.
#3 – Know your lubes
Check you’re using the right kind of lube for your condoms – water based sexual lubricant is safe with any type of condom but oil-based lubricant is only compatible with polyurethane condoms, nitrile condoms and silicone based toys; it isn’t suitable for use with latex or polyisoprene condoms as they can break down and fail to provide protection. Don’t use silicone lubricants with silicone toys.
Natural lubricants are better for anyone with sensitive skin, allergies, or other sensitivities, and it’s a good idea to avoid lubes with glycerine if you are susceptible to yeast infections.
#4 – Speaking of condoms…
If you’re using a condom, the way to make it feel nice and natural is to slip it on and apply lube to the outside of it. A word to the wise – a drop or two of sex lube inside can help increase sensation too, but don’t add enough to make the condom slip.
#5 – Slip sliding away
If you’re in a long term relationship and having sex without protection, or working on making a baby, the lube goes right onto the key action spots! Take your time applying it, and make sure it’s rubbed on nice and smooth, in all the right places. A little extra foreplay never hurt anyone!
As a high level guide, personal lubricant should go on your body, your partner’s body, and on anything else you are using! You can also slip a little inside yourself to increase the sliding sensations. If you’re having anal sex, be very generous with the amount of sex lube you apply to both partners.
#6 – A quick pit-stop
If your love making is of the long lasting variety, lucky you! Just slip on an extra slick of lubricant to keep the fun sliding smoothly and enjoy. If your choice of condom allows, you will find that our oil based sex lube will last longer.
#7 – Lube your toys
Sex toys slide better with a slick of organic sex lube – either of our formulations is fine for sex toy lubrication.
#8 – Oral
Some swear by sex lube as a tip for cunnilingus or rimming anyway, but if you are using a dental damn, it really is a great addition. You’ll want to steer clear of synthetic sex lube formulas with strong perfumes though.
#9 – Handy!
Fingers slide much smoother with a little lubricant, adding serious silky sensation to hand jobs or fingering.
#10 – Multipurpose massage oil
Well we think it’s a bit wasteful but when the need arises, you can slick our oil based personal lubricant on any skin and smooth it sensually – from a good ol ‘dry hump / full body massage’ to easing a tight shoulder muscle. Just another reason to pack your sex lube when leaving for holidays!
#11 – Layering
Sex is great. Sex with extra sensation is wild! Talk sexy to your partner. Get a few drops of sex lube and smooth it on sensual areas while you have sex… nipples, perineum, balls, clit… any erogenous zone is going to feel extra silky and add to the building eroticism.
# 12 – Enjoy
This is the fun part – and we’ll leave you to make up your own guidelines for this!
WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A SEX LUBe
Sex lube is going to become involved in an intimate part of your life, so you want to find one you like, and trust! Here are some things to look for:
Bonk Lube is BioGro Certified Organic so you know it is pesticide free, and animal cruelty free. And our gentle sex lube is formulated with natural botanicals and absolutely no toxins or nasty chemicals. Nice.
The main function of sex lube is to lubricate whatever sexy act you’re about to enjoy. So lube should be smooth, slick but with a hint of body to it; not too greasy and oily or silicone-slidey feeling.
Scent is sensual
A sex lube shouldn’t overpower your expensive perfume with the smell of a cheap boudoir! Bonk lube has a light natural scent that won’t combat your senses.
Silicone free sex lube
As well as damaging silicone toys and condoms, silicone can increase the rate of yeast infections. No thanks!
WHAT THE MEDIA SAY ABOUT SEX LUBE
Allure Magazine: Use personal lubricant liberally
Seriously, the worst-case scenario is that you have to wipe a little bit away if you over-pour. There is not a soul on this green earth who doesn’t need lube from time to time — and if that statement makes you feel defensive, consider where that lube stigma is coming from. Your body is in no way “broken” and there is nothing “wrong” with you if you use lube. Lube is not solely for postmenopausal folks or anal play: It is ideal for any activity (unless you have a thing for really dry sex or something).We all have our less-hydrated days and, let’s be honest, spit is a really ineffective lubricant. If you’ve avoided lube in your sex life thus far, I challenge you to get yourself a small bottle, try it out next time you play, and tell me that shit isn’t awesome. You don’t even have to save it for partnered sex. Use a little the next time you masturbate and notice the difference.”
Cosmo’s 10 ways to use lube during sex
“If you’ve never put lube inside a condom, WYD?”
ube is the unsung hero of sex. It’s galaxy brain-level sex-having, because it’s so obvious, yet so brilliant, and once you know about it, you’ll think back on the time before you did as the horrid “before years.”
For some reason, lubricant has this fuddy-duddy reputation as something that’s only for people who’ve “dried up.” But there’s absolutely no truth to that. Lube, in all its glory, is for everyone—as in, everyone should be using it more times than not. And not just using it, but using it creatively.”
Huffington Post: A few drops of sex lube inside the condom will increase his enjoyment
Regardless of the reason (and whether or not you use condoms), lacking personal lubrication during sex can be uncomfortable, distracting and painful. Most women experience times when additional lubrication would greatly improve both comfort and sexual pleasure for her as well as her partner.”
Health.com: Lube is great for great sex
Lube is one of the best bedroom enhancers around, making sex wetter, slicker, more enjoyable, and longer-lasting. Not only will it help you feel more comfortable and flexible, but lube comes in lots of flavors, sensations, and textures to make the action feel fun and experimental. Even if you don’t usually have issues getting wet on your own, it’s smart to keep lube on hand in case you go through a bout of dryness due to hormone changes related to pregnancy, breastfeeding, or stress.”
Refinery 29: Know your toys
Sex toys are lots of fun to add to any position you’re trying to accomplish, but if you’re using one made of silicone, then avoid silicone sex lubes. The thing that’s used to make silicone lubes stay liquid breaks down the surface of silicone sex toys, says Lisa Finn, a sex educator at Babeland. “It doesn’t make it into a dangerous science experiment or anything that’s going to be harmful to the body,” she says. “You just don’t want to ruin a nice silicone toy.”
New York Magazine: Know your personal style of sex lube
Buying lube can be, at best, embarrassing, and at worst, downright confusing, especially if the only type of lube you’ve purchased before is from the drugstore. And if you’ve resigned yourself to using less-than-perfect lube (or avoided it entirely), you probably just need to try a different type. “There is likely no lube that will be perfect for every user,” explains Carol Queen, staff sexologist at Good Vibrations, a woman-founded sex-toy retailer based in California that’s been in business for over three decades. “As with food sensitivities, some lubricant ingredients just don’t agree with everyone’s body chemistry.”
Glamour Magazine: Sex lube can help with thrush (but read the ingredients first)
“The friction during quickies or rough sex encourages heat and small grazes to the walls of the vagina. These encourage bacterial growth, leading to thrush,” explains Evans. Cut friction and you stop micro-tears, leaving a happier V-zone.
However, artificial ingredients in some lubes were not built with crotch sanity in mind. “Your vagina and clitoris are highly absorbent,” says sexual health expert Samantha Evans, a former nurse and co-owner of Jo Divine sex toy e-tailer. “Parabens, petroleum-based ingredients (found in petroleum jelly), glycerin and glucose can promote yeast infections and leave your vagina feeling itchy, sore and uncomfortable.” If you’re prone to sensitivity, give dyes a wide berth too, and look for natural flavourings, not artificial ones (often full of thrush-spawning sugars like glycerine or glycol).”